So, our yoga class usually starts with a meditation. It ends with another meditation and we all clasp our hands together and modestly semi bow to one another, clasping hands and saying “namaste” But Namaste will never sound quite the same.
When Trump visited India, Modi arranged for him to visit his home town, where the President was greeted by a sea of Indians in a giant soccer stadium, all wearing while baseball caps with the words “Namaste Trump” on the caps. Namaste comes from Sanskrit, the precursor to Hindi, and it means “I bow to you” “ It is a greeting based on one’s inner peace and divinity But somehow, a stadium filled with screaming sycophants has replaced my image of the Hindi embodiment of peace and well being. It makes me cringe as I think of two leaders celebrating each other’s greatness, while the masses riot in the streets of Delhi in response to the marginalization of muslims in Inda.
Another brilliant Economist cover…
On a lighter note, relaxation time in our yoga class, which precedes “Namaste,’ remains the highlight of my week. Why is it so hard to relax? “Get comfortable,” our teacher says. Then she starts talking in that quiet , reassuring, ethereal tone and I begin to drift. “Free up your mind. If you start to wander off and think about other things, it’s okay Just be aware and bring yourself back.” She continues and after a short while I am asleep on my yoga mat Only Camille knows how to make me let go of the busy outside world,. and finally relax.
I got there late today as I had a county wide meeting. So, I rush in and immediately sink into the timeless, borderless world of our class. No pressure “Just breathe. …Put your hand on your belly, the center of power.”
I was never good at breathing. I cannot swim because it involves submerging your head in the water and then coordinating breathing side to side. I could not play a brass instrument like the trombone, trumpet, sax, or clarinet because all of them required breathing I don’t have the endurance to participate in a long race or a neighboorhood walking activity like the Turkey Trot or Bunny Hop because I don’t have the endurance. I can’t breathe normally enough to fuel a runner for that long- I am just not a breather but I am still alive by the grace of God
So, it’s Super Tuesday. Who is the guy who can beat Donald Trump? So ask the commentators on all the networks as the results roll in.
“Jomememtum is growing. Bernie is not growing at this point. Winning helped Joe Biden find his voice after Clyburn helped him win South Carolina…
Are people getting carried away? Will Biden be radically different in the next debate…
The Party is consolidating around Joe…
Oh no, here we go again the establishment is coming to kneecap Bernie like in the last election….
Bloomberg’s bet that Biden will fall apart and the party would turn to him to push out Bernie hasn’t paid off….
Our party has an expanded coalition. Democrats can’t win without the African American vote. …
Biden has been propped out by party insiders. He still needs a message….
These are all quotes I hear coming from CNN as the professional talking heads report on and interpret the results of today’s primaries.
My best memory of today/s primary is the table of Girl Scouts selling cookies just outside the polling place Now, that is entrepreneurship and a good use of time on a day out of school I had to buy some trefoils and dos-i-dos. You cannot in good conscience walk past girl scouts selling cookies and not support them. This would be a certain invitation for bad karma.
I talked to my class yesterday about the school being used as a polling place, and we talked about what would be happening today We talked about how primaries work and who was running. I wrote the names on the board. I included Pete and Amy since they had just dropped I was curious what they may have heard or knew and I asked them to vote. The class unilaterally voted for Mike Blumberg. I asked why. “Mike will get it done,” one of the students yelled out. “Yeah, that’s right, Mike is the best,” said another. I smiled realizing how important phone and TV messaging is. Although they didn’t know any of the candidates, they were gung ho in favor of Mike because they had been inundated with messaging. The power of the media is phenomenal
They asked who I was voting for “Do you like Mike? Cause everyone likes Mike.” I explained to them that teachers cannot discuss our own personal political views with them. Talking about what a primary is and who is participating is different. I went home wondering what the “I like Mike “effect would be…..
So many balls up in the air…… such a reflection of who we are as a people. This primary feels like taking the pulse of a sick patient. Just exactly how abnormally low or high is our collective social emotional blood pressure? How do we best treat the irregularities catapulting us into a state of moral atrial fibrillation, where our collective hearts beat erratically?
Oh how I dread going to the endodontist, the ones who pry deeply into the roots of your jaw as if they were digging deep enough to uncover your soul. Maybe there is a spiritual element connected to the whole procedure of getting a root canal.
I enter the office, I see a coffee machine. “What? Hazelnut coffee at the dentist?” Too bad if my breath is bad, I cannot resist this perk. Then I spot a People magazine dedicated to Kate Middleton. Okay this isn’t going to be so bad after all. I have arrived early enough to enjoy my coffee and catch up on Kate. Then the dreaded appearance of the dental assistant, efficiently standing in the doorway, chart in hand “We are ready for you.” Never mind that I am not ready for them. We go down a hallway that is unusual, a series of angular arches, beckoning me into this alternate world of teeth, needles, x ray machines, and shadows cast across the floor, chasing me into a chair that overlooks the tennis courts at the local high school. So sleek and modern….Like an Escher drawing, I am pulled into the vortex.
The activity across the street looks so enticing as I sit in my chair suspended in time, imprisoned by the knowledge that an abscess does not cure itself, and really this isn’t that big a deal. Just buck up and go with it! Embrace this 21st century moment. You are in technological free fall here.
The dental assistant comes in and begins to x-ray my teeth, many times over. “Perfect,” she smiles, but it never is. After many attempts, finally there is an x-ray clear enough to read and we move on to the next stage. X rays show a shadow on my gum,- never a good sign Infection, bad news, but today we will get to the root of all evil….. and the evil will be uprooted. This is the stage where after becoming numb, I move on to meditative French prayer.
Memories of going to the dentist every Friday after school, as a junior high student, come flooding back to me. I had terrible teeth, even as a child. I lived in sheer dread of dental appointments, far more than I do now. The way I got through those appointments was to close my eyes tightly and transport myself elsewhere That elsewhere was to Paris, where I was speaking impeccable French with the handful of words I knew. Through the entire appointment, I would recite the first dialogue we learned from the ALM French program.
“Bonjour Jeanne, comment vas-tu?” “Tres bien merci, et toi?” “Pas mal” Ou est la bibliotheque? “Tout droit, a gauche” (I don’t have the keys to write the proper accents)
My French dialogues rolled through my brain like a rosary as I sat in the dental chair every Friday. As a result, I always knew my dialogues by heart. From the trauma of my bad teeth, my embrace of the French language arose from my dental ashes, like a French Phoenix.
So perhaps it is true that the meditative repetition of my early French dialogues became a prayer, a mantra, an anchor to take me elsewhere while the dentist did his work. Today I revisited the early days of my French immersion in dentistry and dialogue as I got my root canal.
When I see my regular dentist, I no longer cloak myself in French because I love her. She is so amazing that I can even tolerate being in the chair. But today was different. Today’s specialty dentist did a good job, but he was new and he was going into my roots, more like trench warfare, with my roots acting as trenches, So I pulled out my old dialogue again, after all these years, to get me through it. The fact that he played jazz music in the background the whole time contributed to making it better than my early dental memories as well And, he really was a good guy, even if he is an endodontist. All in all, the experience was far better than my 12 year old self would ever have expected from a dentist.
“Bonjour Jeanne” Tomorrow I will have a café au lait and a croissant for breakfast to celebrate, now that I am rooted in the present and free of the shadows.
It is the first of March and of course, I am focusing on all things Irish. Let’s start with the recent cover of the Economist, a British magazine with the most insightful and clever covers of any publication.
This month the cover is this:
As I look at it I am hearing in the background a song I belted out over the years in Irish bars with great enthusiasm…”A Nation Once Again.”
When boyhood’s fire was in my blood I read of ancient freemen, For Greece and Rome who bravely stood, Three hundred men and three men; And then I prayed I yet might see Our fetters rent in twain, And Ireland, long a province, be. A Nation once again!
A Nation once again, A Nation once again, And lreland, long a province, be A Nation once again!
And from that time, through wildest woe, That hope has shone a far light, Nor could love’s brightest summer glow Outshine that solemn starlight; It seemed to watch above my head In forum, field and fane, Its angel voice sang round my bed, A Nation once again!
It whisper’d too, that freedom’s ark And service high and holy, Would be profaned by feelings dark And passions vain or lowly; For, Freedom…
The highlighted part is the chorus that those of us “feeling Irish” would belt out in solidarity with whoever was performing. For us, on this side of the pond, it was easy and fun. Yes we were Irish, of course we supported the cause. and the British should get out and stop oppressing our people-
But….. We were American Irish, never really there. We were not experiencing the actual hardships of the catholic Irish in Ulster. We were incensed by what our parents and grandparents told us.
Three of my four grandparents were born and raised in Ireland. My mother was full of stories about the atrocities committed by the British against the Irish over the years. The Irish would always be second class citizens at best for the English. They had taken one of Ireland’s four provinces for their own, and Brits and protestants would always be the ruling class there, with advantages in jobs, education and housing. The idea that Ireland’s four provinces would one day reunite was just that a dream. It was a subject for poetry and song lyrics and wistful reminiscing amongst the older and still hopeful.
The Anglo-Irish treaty of 1921 established the Irish Free State, which would later become the Republic of Ireland and the province of Ulster was also established in 1921 as a separate entity. The seeds for the troubles, which would start some 40 years later had already been sown.
“A Nation Once Again” thundered out hopes that one day Ireland would regain its full identity and be re, dignity, and be united, one people… A Nation Once Again. So there it was on the cover on the Economist- as if this were something that could actually happen, not just some crazy dreamy image of reunification cooked up at the Dubliner or Ireland’s Four Provinces, local Irish bars. No, this was the real deal!
I wish my mom could have seen that cover. She remembered the actual partition. To think that the Brits may have actually brought this on, after so many years of efforts to do so on the part of the Irish failed Brexit may have done the job.
I remember when the Berlin wall came down. I also remember how amazed I was to see a reunited Germany in my lifetime. So, maybe there is just something within the spirit of a nation that eventually pulls people back together, regardless of what has gone under the bridge in the interim, a cultural reunification magnet.
So as we start the Irish month of March, the prospect of Ireland becoming a nation once again looms large . Maybe this is what is at the end of the rainbow, beyond that pot of gold.
One of those times when you know you married the right person
This is the dinner my wonderful husband had waiting for me when I came home from school on the very last day after working until 9 p.m. to wrap all the loose ends of the year and finish packing away my room for the summer.
I decided to try a challenge a blogger put out a couple months ago, Debbie, I think it was you. I went into my photos randomly and decided to write about the photo that showed up on my phone. Actually, this one is perfect as it follows the porch sequence with ease, since this is on my screened porch. Dinner is sitting on the tile table I bought from a Moroccan merchant off the back of a truck in an alley. I came home from school exhausted but effusive as all the memories and logistics of the last year wrapped themselves around my tired framework
Without me asking, without me knowing, my husband decided I needed a steak dinner, no matter when I got home. So when I arrived, there it was….. steak, green beans, and a glass of Cabernet, a teacher’s refuge after the end of the year storm. As delicious as the dinner was, I was even more delighted by the fact that my hubby took the time to make it for me. This is another one of the moments in marriage where you know what your partner needs and it means more to them, because they didn’t have to say so. This quiet understanding permeates the cool evening air on a perfect night as we linger on the porch and anticipate the many nights to be spent together on the porch this summer Today in the torrential downpour, we have the perfect vantage point to participate in the energy of the storm. It rained a month’s worth of rain in just one hour and there are flash floods everywhere. Yet, we sit here safe and sound, while the storm rages around us. The porch enhances our experience of nature in storm and drang and in the stillness of the rainbows that follow.
One of my colleagues said that the evening of the day we finish school is the best day of summer. Maybe it is, the whole summer lies before you, filled with possibilities. You can easily imagine yourself organizing your whole house, playing with your grandchildren all day, seeing all of your friends, going to the beach, the mountains, and the Shenandoah. In one breath you see it all before you, and everything is possible. I sometimes think I wouldn’t have friends if it were not for the summer. During the year, school takes over my life. But now, as summer begins, I am a free agent, with time for it all My life is my own again. Funny that you can love your job but still cherish the freedom of not having to do it for a while.
Responding to Sally’s challenge, I selected a noun and wrote about it.
I pour my coffee and wander out in my nightgown to my own private slice of the outdoors. The sun warms my face and the breeze teases me as it ruffles the small leaves of the plants in the corner of my porch. I sit on the glider and take in the lush green all around me. The azaleas brush up against the screens Children come to play on the swing that hangs from the tree just beyond the steps. My neighbor’s house completes the storybook scenery. Their fachwerk brick and stucco home looks like part of a Disney set, the perfect once up on a time cottage.
I am joined on the porch by my husband of almost 40 years. Our day begins here with a simple slow and
soothing rhythm Our morning coffee
sipped together slowly with numerous refills
is a summer tradition. We soak up
the heat of the day, before it becomes overbearing, and we talk about family,
about our plans for the day, and what is happening in the world. Sometimes we add the morning paper to the mix. We also sit in silence at times,
those may be the best. This is a bonding
silence where we experience our own worlds and share them without effort or
words. Breakfast on a screened in porch may be a good
metaphor for 40 years of marriage. It is
comfortable, beautiful, invigorating, and fresh in its own way each day. You can feel the love that is understood
beckoning you onto the porch. It is equally enjoyable on a balmy spring or
summer day as it is in a dynamic rainstorm or a blizzard- a place you can go to
view the world around you and always be home.
The porch is also an extension of home for Bingo, our
cockapoo. He stretches out belly up,
waiting for some love and glancing out through the screens. From the perch, Bingo keeps watch on the
house and defends us from intruders such as the postman and delivery
people. He greets neighbors and friends enthusiastically. He keeps watch for other dogs who may try to
infringe on his territory, and squirrels who would like to bold through the
screen to chase. He thinks this is his porch,
I guess we all think this porch is our special place. He allows us to share it
The latest member of the porch fan club is Oliver. When he comes over he points to the fan overhead on the porch. He is mesmerized by fans , all fans… but he is especially fond of this one. A long ribbon dangles from it to make it easier to pull and put on and off. From the time he was an infant, he has stretched out on the glider, kicking his feet, gurgling with laughter and gazing longingly at the ceiling fan overhead. Now in his second summer of life, he still gravitates to that fan, pointing to it and talking in a language only he understands. “ Gabybe gbye” With big smiles, a single finger is held upward under the fan. He holds onto the glider as he wobbles about, and he climbs on my lap, standing to get a better view of the neighborhood.
We added this porch to the house about 15 years ago. After having enclosed a large screen porch on the front of the house to make office space, we realized that we had cut off the air flow to our favorite part of the house- architectural gentrification ( a term I just invented) , where the actual fabric of the house is altered by the changes it endures. So, we built this small square space with wooden floors and beams, to reunite nature and our living space. The porch continues to breathe life into our home. It is inside, outside, and a place of its own for all seasons, having imprinted each of us in its own way.
The tone of
discourse, political and otherwise has become increasingly crude and
belligerent. I am right, and you are an
idiot! We struggle to survive these
every day brutal exchanges as adults.
How do we protect children and train our young people to listen with an
open heart and mind, evaluate critically what they hear, and put themselves in
someone else’s, perhaps less comfortable, shoes.
generally post political thoughts on my FB page, I keep it more a means of
staying in touch with family, friends far away, and former students who are no
longer in our school system. However I
broke that rule in our current local election.
It is not even a full blown election.
It is a primary . So both
candidates are in the same party, but you wouldn’t think it to hear the bombs
being thrown. The office in question is Commonwealth’s Attorney. This is a real job with serious consequences
for our district. (Not going to use
D.A. has worked with me and other educators to help young people She has come up with creative and
compassionate ways to address criminal charges against young people who have
made mistakes and who have responded to the chance to rehabilitate. The police force in our county has gang
prevention programs, and a very active and effective community outreach
program. I am watching a lot of what
works in our county be thrown under a political bus,
So, I am trying
to stay with my original orientation on not writing about politics. What this blog is about is actually something
else, basic human communication with dignity and respect. I had to give some background first as to why
my feelings are so strong. The D.A. did
not vote in favor of a bill our governor was promoting on the house floor, and
now I see this as political payback time.
Not everyone would agree, but I find it hard to see why party regulars
would jump ship on a well-liked and effective incumbent, against whom no
objections were previously voiced, after she failed to tow the party line on
the governor’s bill. Fortunately,
another prominent democratic representative, well known in our district, has
written a letter on behalf of the D.A.
Even her opponent in a previous election has come out in favor of her. There are multiple postings on FB about this
election. One of them had a very
negative attack on my candidate under a release/political ad. So, I took the plunge and responded. I simply spoke of the positive things I have
seen her do. I did not address in any
negative way her opponent. Nevertheless,
I was bracing myself for hate mail, which is what usually follows FB political
posts, and this election has become very contentious. . I was even expecting to be cursed out. Instead, I received a reply from someone who
started with “I don’t walk in your shoes,but..” She presented her views and her
own experiences in a reasonable way. She
hasn’t changed my mind, but I welcomed the response. We exchanged a few more thoughts with one
another, neither of us budging, each becoming more sure that we were supporting
the correct person, but we agreed on certain policy directions, maybe just not
who would best take us there. The
exchange was civil, even friendly
Sunday and after church I stopped along Columbia Pike to go to the outdoor
farmer’s market. It was my first time
there. I wandered about to see what was
available. I bought a baguette, and next
to that table, was a table for my candidate’s opponent. I walked by glancing at the literature. Most of what I have received by mail from her
has been distorted and hostile. These
brochures looked a little less hostile from
the outer flap. As I looked, the woman
behind the table began to talk to me. She
said she was a defense attorney and then she started saying a lot of the things
that my newly found FB correspondent had said.
Suddenly she looked at me, and said my name. “Wait, how do you know who I am?” “Because I recognize your profile picture,
and these are some of the same things we talked about….” Wow!” I was meeting my new found FB exchange
partner in person, purely by chance.
And, she was as decent in person as she was online. We shared a lot of values, but saw this
election completely differently, I
walked away from our conversation, no less committed to my candidate, but bolstered
by the fact that it is still possible to share goals and have a civil
disagreement about how to get there, in which both parties learn something
I still cannot wrap my head around someone who
has never been a prosecutor, or tried a case in our county’s courts herself,
becoming the D.A. and supervising others doing a job she has never done,
especially when the current person does it so well. That said, I enjoyed my farmer’s market
meeting, and left if feeling hopeful.
Tone is key to conveying content.
You could hear the Harleys roaring. Oh yeah, Rolling Thunder must be back, it will soon be Memorial Day weekend. The hum of excitement, the drumbeat of history was pounding in my ear. I heard on the radio that this would be the last trip. This would be the last official Rolling Thunder visit to D.C. on Memorial Day. Another end of an era event…. The older you get, the more of these you experience.
home for the weekend, no elaborate trips out of town to the beach, or the
Shenandoah- just planned on a quiet weekend at home and some spring clean
ng. The basement project led to the
uncovering of all kinds of treasures… the makings of a future blog. The whole
time I was sorting through mystery boxes, Rolling Thunder continued to be on my
afternoon I took my bike (not a motorbike, but rather a bike with no speeds
that I bought at a yard sale years ago for $10.00) from the garage and set out
to follow that Harley sound, like a call from beyond, that magnetically pulled
me over to the Highlander. This motel is
straight out of film noir or a Hitchcock thriller on Turner Classics. It has been only minimally renovated since
the 1950s and it has a large wrap around porch on two levels, encircling an
inviting square shaped parking lot. For
one week every year, this is not a parking lot for cars at all, but rather a mecca
for motorbikes. For a large contingent
of Rolling Thunder guys, this is a second home, a hang out, turned happening
encampment. Tables are set up side by side in the parking lot with food and
drinks that keep the party going well into the night. There are occasional items or memorabilia
strewn about as well, badges, medallions, etc.
A shiny royal blue bike catches my eye, among a sea of big black Harley
Davidsons.The black shield in front of my very blue bike has
“Boozefighters MC tn” written across it in Gothic print, bold
and stylized, a bit like the riders.
Then I noticed that a lot of the guys had this on the back of their
leather jackets. It was a connector,
maybe a bike club they all belong to, I don’t know, like so much I do not know
about these bikers.
in the evenings, when everyone comes back from the day’s activities, is a
little like a mini biker’s Woodstock- very sixties. Loud rock music plays in the background. Guys and gals parade about with cans of beer
and laughter from the gut, along with some tired and drawn faces clustered in
groups, engaged in conversation, reliving the past and trying to live the
present I can’t help but think how much adjustment
these guys have had to go through between the Vietnam war itself and then their
return to the US., at a time when their service was often not appreciated, as
in no other war.
You get the
feeling that there is a lot of bonding going on here that nobody else will ever
be a part of or understand. In many
cases, younger family members accompany the riders, many riding themselves.
most likely a whole different recovery culture for the different wars and
conflicts that those who serve experience.
Vietnam is a world onto itself. I
watch these guys and the “happening” from my perch on my bike across the street
from the parking lot. I want to talk to
some of the riders, hear their stories, but I cannot bring myself to interrupt
the party. It is their time, their day,
their world. I am an outsider, an
observer, maybe I would even be an intruder.
I have heard that this is the last year because they are tired of being
harassed and disrespected. I hope that
report was wrong. I also heard that the
finances and logistics were too much to handle as the members of Rolling
Thunder age That seems believable to me.
I didn’t know that they have to pay 200,000 dollars to use the Pentagon
parking lot to assemble there . This was
the biggest gathering ever, with bikes in the thousands down on the mall, since
it is purported to be the last Clearly
they needed to meet at the Pentagon first, to enter the city and file past the
Lincoln Memorial and the Marine guard who salutes them, as a unit.
Part of me
wonders, why aren’t we as a nation picking up this expense? Look what they gave for their country… Would
it not be possible for them to use the Pentagon parking lot as a military
benefit of sorts. As a taxpayer, I am
willing to contribute. For the
government to do this once a year would not break the bank. That said, driving a thousand miles or more
to get here becomes a bigger challenge for bikers in their 70s and 80s.
So, as I
watch these guys leave town, I remember the distant chatter in high school,
when you found out that someone you knew had been drafted. One number, by chance, places you on the
other side of the world in camouflage, hoping to survive a raid or attack, you
never envisioned. Meanwhile back home, the country is erupting with protest and
everything is being questioned. Even
though I didn’t like the war, I found myself liking Jane Fonda less….These guys
are risking their lives, and you are giving cover to the enemy while there are
troops on the ground really? She now says she regrets it, that was a long
time coming…..Funny how age gives you perspective.
community reinforces each other’s memories and dreams on the pavement of the
Highlander, I wish them well. And to
anyone reading this who has served this country, especially in times of
war, we are in your debt. This weekend belongs to you!
Thunder, you will be missed in the quiet absence of your massive bikes and
We are driving home when I see the sign. “Wait! We have to stop, it’s a grand opening” “Oh, that will be going on all week, it’s just another restaurant.” “Can we at least look? The décor looks interesting and opening night only comes around once. “ “Do we have to?” “Maybe we could just get appetizers and then go home…Let me just look in the window. It looks Middle Eastern and you know how much I love middle eastern food.” “okay fine, “ he says with the kind of resignation that only a husband who has been down this road before and knows how it will turn out, can have. I feel a little guilty dragging him into this, but in the window it says the restaurant is Egyptian, and I just cannot help myself. The dye is cast
Looking through the window, I see Isis, not the terrorist organization, but the Egyptian goddess. The total opposite of ISIS, the goddess Isis protected children, healed the sick, and was married to Osiris, the ancient Egyptian God of the afterlife . They were all right there, their images were on the tables and spread throughout the restaurant along with the centuries old symbols for upper and lower Egypt The pharaoh wore a crown bearing both symbols, because in his power he united both upper and lower Egypt. All these thoughts and images rushed my brain like water breaking through a flood gate as I gazed at the bright stark images, and felt myself getting sucked into the world of Tutankhamun, the Valley of the Dead, the pyramids, all the ancient wonders of Egypt And they are all on the other side of the glass window beckoning us in…. Scott sees the gleam in my eye, and he knows that I am already transported somewhere far beyond this storefront. There is no turning back now…
“There aren’t any Egyptian restaurants in Arlington,” I say with fanatic enthusiasm. “In fact I don’t’ know of any Egyptian restaurants even in D.C., Moroccan, Turkish, Lebanese, yes, but Egyptian, no way!’ We are in for the whole nine yards. I throw open the door and we saunter into El Kahira (Arabic for Cairo.) We take a table and I start to throw around the little bit of Arabic I know from my days of working with the Kuwaitis. It doesn’t take long before I have used up all the vocabulary I know, since it is schwaya, schwaya, very little. The waiter brings us menus, and now we are both all in. The first course is an appetizer, baba ganoush, best ever As we use our naan to scoop it up, I look at the 1,001 Arabian nights décor and I am swept into another time and place. Even the name.. King of Koshary
When we finish our meal, we congratulate the owner “Mabrouk! Congratulations on your opening day.” As we get ready to leave, we pass another table, where Scott stops to admire their food. “That looks pretty good” “Oh, it is. this is what the peasants eat in Egypt. With pasta and chick peas to recommend it, the dish looks very filling. A wave of nostalgia seems to wash over both of them as they devour this comfort food. “We made an hour long drive here just for the opening.” Now I don’t feel so bad insisting we stop on the way home “I had to bring A here for his birthday. You can never find Egyptian food- exactly what I thought.
Scott breaks out into a loud rendition of happy birthday and S joins in, telling us that she needed to get A out to cheer him up. He said, “she always laughs at me for having a French accent when I speak Arabic.” Then I find out that he had a restaurant in Paris for 40 years and that they just moved to the States . She wanted him to have Egyptian food.and then she says, the other part of her ream for him to celebrate his birthday would have been the chance to speak French with someone. He misses it so much. Say no more. “ Mon ami, le francais te manque?. Je comprends bien”. And I am off on a tear. We speak French for a long time and notice that they are mopping the floor They wanted to order coffee but it is too late Closing time crept up on us. So we acknowledge that it is time to leave and then we realize that they need that coffee before making the long drive back to the Shenandoah countryside and we invite them over. So our evening went from just going home, to the opening and now, unexpected guests.
Our guests were delightful Each person brings his or her own energy and gifts into your life, and our world got a little bigger tonight. It was an opening of more than a restaurant. Now we have someone to visit in Middleburg and something tells me they will be back to the King of Koshary, where upper and lower Egypt meet, and so do we!
Using A and S, rather than full names for privacy, a grand birthday celebration!
was holding its annual market day simulation where students set up shop with
foods, crafts, whatever they can create and sell for a profit, as they learn
about capitalism and how a market economy works. Booths were set up outside and the seventh
grade become merchants as the whole 6th grade comes out to shop I got my hair braided, bought some home-made
honey soap, and a yarn doll for my grandbaby.
counselor came running across the field and said he needs me. He asked me to follow him He moved so quickly, I could not keep up with
him. I followed him into the building
wondering how much trouble one of my students must be in for him to come
running after me.
As I enter
the door to the cafeteria stairs, I see another counselor on the stairs staring
at me. I look to my right, and there they are….. my angel squad! Four students, whom I dearly love, are
standing on the landing arms laden with flowers and chocolates strawberries,
hearts laden with love. They were my
class family when I last taught them 5 years ago. One of them was with me for all three years
of middle school, going back 8 years. At
first, I just stare taking in the overwhelming connectedness and joy I feel
seeing them again. Such a surprise and I
am so intensely happy that it feels like my heart will burst. Happy dance and
group hug time! Tears begin to coat my
eyes like a fine veil of pre dawn mist, as a flood of emotions washes over me,
and I feel myself melting.
We go to the
office and sign in. Meanwhile they take
in their old middle school, where suddenly everything looks small to them. “Were
the lockers always that small?” “I don’t
remember us being small, were we?” “Yes
you were, in sixth grade.” They all laugh contagiously, reliving the middle
school years at a safe distance. “We
need to sign in” Two of them take out
driver’s licenses as ID.s. Whoa, you all
grew up so fast….Three of them are in college and the fourth is working and
taking a gap year, before beginning school next year. They once sat in my class, as ESL students,
working hard to get into regular classes and prepare for high school. Now, they
are well on their way on life’s journey.
I always enjoy my students, but their year was extra special. It is not every year that I sob on the last
day of school They were a really special
group. One of their defining features as
a class was how they looked out for one another. Compassion, dedication,
resilience, and joy were hallmarks of that class They set off sparks of joy when they were
students in my class, over the years, and
during yesterday’s visit they continued to do so.
outside to market day and collected my students
On the way to do so, I arranged
the girls around the Swanson sign
in front of the school, to recreate the picture we had in our HILT middle
school yearbook. When we arrived
upstairs, my current class and the girls introduced themselves to each
other. One boy started with “I hate
reading at home” and another announced, “I hate games.” Sophia, the Queen of optimism, says “Why are
you so negative? Talk about what you do
like.” This is the same positive energy
she brought to my class years ago. Her
bigger than life personality with her smile the size of a half moon, and her
booming voice bellowing out greetings in English with a thick Italian accent, fill
the room. My current students sit
mesmerized as I retrieve some of my former students’ work from my google Drive
and print out speeches and essays they wrote in another middle school life
time. Keity begins to read. Her speech is a reflection of who she is. It is humorous, unpredictable and light on
the outside, but filled with purpose and serious content within. She begins talking about her own relationship
with food in sentences brimming with self deprecating humor and hyperbole “ “ This is followed by serious questions about
world hunger and our responsibilities. Her essay is a thoughtful insightful
package inside engaging and playful
wrapping, just like the writer.
rings and I look for writing by the others to share with my afternoon class. We
go to geography, where we find Mr T. The
girls hit the room with me helping current students with their geography
projects, they once did this class too….Then they go off to explore their old
school. We get together for lunch with
some of their other former teachers, laugh, tell stories, and savor the
moment. Next they meet my afternoon class,
the 8th graders. I find
copies of their 8th grade oratory presentations in my Google Drive
and pull them up. They deliver their
speeches to my current class, who sit there spellbound. “They use really important words… you wrote
THAT in 8th grade.” They are
wonderful role models as former middle schoolers and as the young adults they
One of the
girls got choked up reading her speech.
She spoke about bad decisions she had made and what she had learned from
them and for a moment she was an uncertain 8th grader, looking for
answers she has already found. There
were tears in her eyes. I remember some
of the struggles from those days. My
students were really moved. It was a
wonderful opportunity to talk about the role of writing. “You were revisiting your 14 year old self in
the raw” You will never again write like
that 14 year old girl. You may write now
about challenges you faced at 14, but you will do so as a 19 year old, who has
already overcome them, and that is different
There is something very authentic about capturing the moment while you
are in it.” We all talked a little about
writing and the revisiting of our emotional selves at given points in
time. It was a powerful experience.
The girls all noticed how in 5 short years, cell phones prevailed. Five minutes in the hall and they were asking questions…Oddly enough it sounded like more than 5 years between their leaving and the present. “Could it have changed that much since we left?” I don’t know, could it?
What I do
know is that seeing these young ladies blossom even more in their lives was a
coup de grace beyond anything I could have imagined. They continue to be my inspiration and my
joy, and reminder that no other profession can give a person this kind of